The Relationship Recovery Program

Kathy Cato, M.A., LCMHC

Committment

Questions to Ask Before You Commit

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Recently, Wendy Atterberry of DearWendy.com published a list of the things couples should discuss before they make a commitment to each other. It got me thinking about attraction and compatibility. Let’s face it, there are lots of people out there who are attractive. Far fewer of them are easy for us to live with. When we make a relationship commitment based on attraction, we risk our happiness. It almost certainly won’t make us happy to be partnered with someone who doesn’t share our goals and desires, or who doesn’t want to live in a way that works for us. We would probably end up feeling like they aren’t on our side. So, covering the bases will help you decide if you are compatible with someone. Because it takes more than just attraction to make a commitment work, here are the topics to cover:

  • Debt
  • Bills & Bank Accounts
  • Children
  • Parenting
  • Where and how you want to live
  • Vacations
  • Career Plans & Priorities
  • Family Obligations & Involvement
  • Sex
  • Division of Household Labor

The Value of A Good Laugh

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Smiling makes for a happy family!

Research suggests that while both men and women say they like a “good sense of humor” in a mate, they mean different things by “a good sense of humor”. For men, a sense of humor is demonstrated by someone who laughs at their jokes. For women, a sense of humor is demonstrated by someone who makes them laugh.